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Disagreements: Disagreeing and arguing will always happen, but it is unhealthy to allow problems to become an open sore. The apostle Paul had a disagreement with the leaders at Jerusalem, but it was solved in a good way. Here are four steps to help you solve problems and quarrels. 1. Pray! Pray about the problem and ask God to help you see the reasons behind it, the feeling and needs of those involved, and how you may have added to the problem. Ask God to give you wisdom to find the right words to reply and cool the arguement. 2. Listen! Listen carefully and respect the other persons point of view in the argument. Don't blame, accuse, or insult the other person. Don't even try to find out who's right or wrong. But, listen carefully and try to understand what is important in the situation. Ask,"Why am I sticking to my argument?" "Is it true, or is there something behind it?" Keep in mind that the fight may be about personalities rather than the problem. &nbs;We can feel unfairly treated when our point of view is questioned. This makes us resentful and want to get back at the other person. 3. Work Together! Look at what the problem is really about, what has to be resolved and then work out possible solutions together. When two people are very angry with each other they often think there's nothing they can agree on. But, keep cool and find something you can agree on, and when you have done this you'll find lots of other things to agree on too. Work together to find a solution since the problem involves both of you. If both people make suggestions on ways to improve things, they have the best chance of reaching an agreement. Ask yourself, "What alternative solutions are there and which of them could I live with?" Make sure you desire to see God glorified and be concerned for each other's happiness. 4. Come Together! Coming together and praying is a powerful way of seeking agreement. Get rid of any bad feelings and anger you still hold. Matthew 25:4 tells us to go to our brother or sister and make peace with them! Psalm 85:8 says:
"I will listen to the Lord ... He promises peace to His people." Lastly, ask yourself, "Have I added to this situation or made it worse? Is there anything I need to ask the Lord to help me repent of?" Make it right as soon as you can!
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