Solving Problems

Disagreements:

Disagreeing and arguments will always happen, but it is unhealthy to allow problems to become an open sore. The apostle Paul had a disagreement with the leaders at Jerusalem, but it was solved in a good way. Here are four steps to help you solve problems and quarrels.

1. Pray!

Pray about the problem and ask God to help you see the reasons behind it, and the feelings and needs of those involved, and how they may have added to the problem. Then pray and ask God to give you wisdom to find the right words to cool the argument.

2. Listen!

Respect the other person's point of view in the argument. Don't blame, accuse, or insult the other person. Don't even try to find out who's right or wrong. But, listen carefully and try to understand what is important.

Keep in mind that a fight or quarrel may be about personalities rather than the problem. A person can feel unfairly treated when their point of view is questioned, and this makes them resentful and want to get back at the other person.

3. Work Together!

Look at what the problem is really about and work out possible solutions together. Keep cool and try to find something you can agree on. If you do this, then you will find lots of other things you can agree on as well.

4. Come Together!

Coming together and praying is a powerful way of getting rid of bad feelings and anger. Matthew 25:4 tells us to go to our brother or sister and make peace with them!

Lastly, ask, "Have I added to this situation or made it worse? Is there anything I need to ask the Lord to help me change in my life?" And then make it right as soon as you can!

God Bless.